I have been seeing a lot of articles, tweets, and stories lately about women who chose not to take their husband’s last name. When I was out of town this weekend, I had a few friends ask me why I didn’t, and I had a hard time articulating why I wanted to keep Morrison.
By the way, the question does not offend me AT ALL. Some people seem so scared to ask. I really do not care, it’s definitely not the norm so ask away! I really have no clue why someone would be offended by that question.
Another thing I have noticed, is that when strangers find out that my husband and I have different last names, they often feel the need to explain why they chose to change theirs. Like, “I wasn’t going to but I want the same last name as my kids” or “it was important to my husband” or once “I’m just not super in to the extreme feminist thing.” There’s really no need to explain. My choice not to change my last name is in no way a judgement on women who do. My mom and sister both changed their names, almost all of my dear friends who are married changed their names, etc. etc. etc.
OK OK…so why did I keep Georgia Mae Morrison? I always knew I wanted to be married someday, I have always wanted a big family, and I never once considered changing my last name. It just never crossed my mind! I like the way Georgia Mae Morrison sounds. Also, when I’m a doctor I want it to be my name on my license. Morrison got me through high school, college, into medical school…and I want to be Dr. Morrison all the way.
I CARE!!! Also, our kids will take Nguyen as their last name. I guess I am not a sentimental person but it makes no difference to me that we won’t have the same name. I am 70% sure I’ll still pick up the correct children from daycare.
haha. Finally, if you’re curious, it has nothing to do with the fact that David is Vietnamese and I am white (his last name is Nguyen). If I married a guy with the last name Smith, I still wouldn’t have changed it. It isn’t about disliking the alternative, it’s about really loving and feeling attached to Morrison.
So, that’s all folks! No feminist manifesto, judgement call on women everywhere, cultural differences, or anything like that. I just LIKE my name. I’m Georgia Mae Morrison, someday doctor Morrison, and that’s that!